08 February, 2010

Marriage, Family and Life

In the rich culture of Islam, marriage is considered as the best and greatest structure which is made of cordiality, devotion, and self-satisfaction whose architecture places these in the nature and fate of the workers (i.e. husband and wife) of this structure and insistently encourages Muslims to adopt these characteristics.
In the culture of Islam in comparison to many other old and new cultures, men cannot rule over women. And man’s supervision and guardianship doesn’t show his superiority and authority. A woman is a companion in times of his loneliness and she gives him comfort. A Muslim woman who is familiar with Islam and is of a pure nature tries to obey her husband who is of her own choice. She tries to satisfy her own mental-spiritual needs as well as her husband’s. In this way, they can create a pleasant family environment.
Thus, the contract of marriage is not only a legal way for satisfaction of the sexual instinct, but also is a contract that covers all aspects between the couples which gives beauty and harmony to their lives, and saves them from solitude.
Disintegration of families, increase in divorce rates, moral decadence, negligence of the needs of the young generation, lack of respect and good understanding can be rooted out only with improving relations. Today families are formed with the sole objective of gratifying the sexual desires of man and woman.
The Holy Qur’an says: “And of His sign is this: He created for you helpmates from yourselves that you might find rest in them and created between you love and mercy.” (21:30)
The above Qur’anic Verse refers to a reality that if explained from cultural and educational points of view and above all by parents and if its evils are dealt with, will be so strong that even poverty and ill-health will not be able to weaken it.
The above Verse gives orientation to the life of married couples that must always give comfort to each other and their relations should not be summed up only in sexual pleasure. But should bring an abiding love, sympathy so that they may live in marital bliss.
Because the family is the foundation for forming individual and social personalities and the very morality of parents is a very influential factor which begins way before marriage. The level of development and spirituality of a nation is directly related to its morality and culture, and the roots for the formation of culture and morality can be found in the family.